I had a hard time coming up with a description of this blog when I first started it. It’s kind of a chronicle of my futile attempts at controlling the chaos of my family, some stuff about my relationship with my handsome hubby, and some recipes that I’ve tried and loved. So it’s everything I’ve learned since becoming a mom. Which, it turns out, is a lot. And it also turns out, most of what I’ve learned has come the hard way – lots of mistakes.
The biggest things I’ve learned haven’t been so much about how to parent as much as they’ve been about who I am as a person. I’ve learned so much about myself through my kids and my experiences with them.
1 – I’m stronger than I thought.
I had no idea how much physical pain I could endure and continue living. And yes, I’m talking about labor and delivery, but also about pregnancy and afterward. The aches and pains of my pre-kids body are nothing compared to carrying and birthing children. I can also somehow carry 40 pounds of children and a 15 pound diaper bag at the same time, throw a couple of grocery bags in there most days of the week and I swear a temper tantrum adds 10 pounds to a toddler. Isn’t that like 400 pounds all together?
2 – I’m emotionally weaker than I thought.
I moved to New York 2 weeks before 9/11. I saw firsthand the tragedy we endured as a nation that day and I was what I thought was devastated by it. I will tell you now that I had no idea how emotionally wrecked I could be by an event that didn’t directly effect my family. Every time I see a tragic event on the news, which, unfortunately is pretty often, I can’t hold back tears thinking of the moms of the people lost. I just don’t know how I could continue living if something happened to my kids and I can’t shake those thoughts watching the news.
3 – I’m more patient than I thought.
They push my buttons. Hourly. And they’re still alive. ‘Nuff said.
4 – I love intensely.
There is just no love like the love a mother has for her kids. And I was so nervous when I was pregnant with baby D that I would never love him the way I love Sofia. Wow how wrong I was. I have so much love in my heart for these kids it’s indescribable. And my love for my husband grows with each day as well. Nothing better than watching him play with our kids and knowing he shares that intense love for them with me.
5 – I know absolutely nothing about parenting.
I’ve read books. I’ve researched on the Internet. I’ve talked to everyone I know that has kids. I still have no clue what I’m doing with these little beings I’ve created. I’m winging it. So I have a bank account set up for their inevitable therapy sessions. I really thought I knew how I was going to work things around here but the biggest lesson I’ve learned about being a mom is that there are no right answers. What works for us today may not work for someone else, and it may not work for us tomorrow. I’ve learned to be flexible.
What are the things you’ve learned about yourself since becoming a parent?